Let’s be honest! How often are you dazzled by a person you meet and feel like your tummy is filled with a thousand fluttering butterflies? In all probabilities, the answer is going to be: Not very often…. Right, but why do I ask? The reason is simple; there are chances that you might have just stumbled upon your partner for the very first time. Take a deep breath. Do you smell what’s cooking? Love is in the air!
It’s true, when you fall in love for the first time or all over again, the world seems to change around you. You start feeling that there could not be any better feeling in the world. Sure, you feel your heart knocking against your ribs every time you see your partner standing in front of you, looking you in the eyes or smiling at your words or presence; you get a little anxious whenever the other person seems to be somewhat upset; you even feel the pain when your new found love is in pain or becomes sad, but all of it really translates to the fact that your anxiousness, sadness, pain and desires are weaved around this person who has come into your life to be the part that complements your presence.
We all know of the various stages that tell us we have fallen for someone. Much of it has come into our knowledge by experience and exploration. However, there are a host of other attributes that exhibit the strength of love in a relationship. While feeling butterflies in the stomach or seeing stars midday can be regarded as being the cliché sensations that characterize the initial feelings of love coupled with infatuation, the surer signs of being in love need a mature heart and mind to perceive. Moreover, you can never be sure of it until you have invested some time and thought into the relationship.
So, what are the signs exactly?
You may not be exactly a lovey-dovey person, but you start realizing that those cheesy love songs are not so cringy after all: There are countless pop artists coming out with love-laden numbers every year. Most of them even have a decent fan following that enjoy those songs and keep humming them all the time. Unfortunately, you were never really able to appreciate those songs. There was just something about them that made you nod your head disapprovingly every single time! Suddenly, however, you have started liking those very numbers! It’s almost unbelievable when you think about how some songs that made you cringe at one point of time have recently turned out to be the ones you have played most often.
You may be a person who is somewhat worried about your next manicure session, but you definitely won’t hesitate to get a little dirt under your fingernails when it comes to the wellbeing of your partner: Yes, you like your hands and nails to be in proper shape and shiny. You are particular about getting your pedicure and manicure and everything else that you deem to be essential for looking just the way you want yourself to look, but all of it takes a backseat if your partner needs you there at that moment. Maybe they are busy with a little gardening and badly needs your help to place a little mud around a sapling. You surely won’t be the person saying, “Sorry hun, can’t soil my nails!” and if you do, then you are surely not in love!
You are ecstatic about letting everyone know about your partner: Contrary to your previous romantic escapades, you are really not afraid or embarrassed to introduce your partners to your friends and family. In fact, you are pretty much excited all the time to bring them at every family or friendly gathering just so that you can see how well all of them fit together. You may be a little anxious about how all of it would turn out but that is because you intend the meeting to turn out great for everyone present. There is nothing else you would love to see more than everyone being really comfortable and close with each other.
You rediscover yourself: There are certain parts of us that remain completely unknown. In all likelihood, those aspects might go undiscovered if not for our partners who throw light upon the unexplored regions of our being. We might have an artist, a singer or even an excellent orator hiding within us. That persona needs just the right personal touch that can only be delivered by our loving and caring partners.
There can be countless other sensations or experiences that a person might go through when they discover or rediscover love. The ones listed above just happen to be some of the most prominent feelings felt by people who felt both that they were in love and loved!
Falling in love does not happen for all of us. So, if you see it happening for you, don’t step back. Let go of your fears and step forward. Go on. Fall in Love.
Written by Poonam Chatterjee
I am the 27 -year-old budding author, pet lover, and foodie. From a tender age of ten, I found my calling in the written word and since then, has been scribbling away my unconventional ideas, sometimes in the last pages of notebooks and sometimes on online blogs. Writing gives me happiness like no other thing.
Week 5, February 2021
